April 4, 2009

How to Be Totally Miserable: A Self-Hinder Book by John Blytheway

BOOK #: 25
CHALLENGES:
Triple 999
RATING: Amazing! (4 stars)

Book Introduction:
They say that in life suffering is mandatory, but misery is optional.
We all have problems, but we also have choices. We can choose to be happy, or we can choose to be miserable.
Being miserable requires effort- you have to ignore a lot of things.
In this little book, you'll learn how to be miserable, and on the way, you'll also learn how not to be. (Miserable, that is...)

Review: Blytheway's pocket-size book shares his wit and wisdom for life through reverse psychology. He teaches you exactly what it takes to drown in misery and you end up learning how stop holding yourself back in life and instead step outside of yourself and live a life that is uncommon and worthwhile. It is a very simple concept: you can't choose whether or not you suffer, but you can choose whether or not you let that suffering run your life. This "miserable" book surprises with its hidden motivational message that gets you away from your defeatist attitude and on a new cycle of adventure, creation, and joy.

Example 1: Don't Set Goals
If you're trying to be miserable, it's important you don't have any goals. No school goals, personal goals, spiritual goals, family goals. With nothing to shoot for, your life is shot. Your only objective each day should be to inhale, exhale, and pump blood. Don't read anything informative; don't listen to anything useful; don't do anything productive. If you start achieving goals, you might start to feel a sense of accomplishment; then you might want to set another goal, and as soon as that happens, your miserable mornings are through. To maintain your misery, the idea of crossing off your achievements should never cross your mind.

Example 2: Don't Have a Purpose
Happy people don't get down, because they have a reason to get up. They know why they're here and what they're supposed to do. Since they have a purpose, they live their life on purpose. They memorize their mission, ponder their purpose, and always seem to be going someplace. Having a purpose is like a rudder that steers you through life's storms, winds, and currents. Miserable people drift. They just go with the flow without asking where the flow will go. They don't push through the waves, they get pushed around by them. Miserable people have no plans, no goals, no dreams, no purpose. No wonder they're miserable!

My favorite quote Blytheway included was this Chinese rhyme:
This one makes a net;
This one stands and wishes.
Would you like to make a bet,
Which one gets the fishes?

4 comments:

  1. I could totally see how the reverse psychology of this could totally work! I like the example you gave.

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  2. This sounds like a fun and useful book. :-)

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  3. I love John Bytheway! It has been years since I have read anything from him! He is so funny

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